(HT: google for Fr. Richard Rohr)
Fr. Rohr writes:
We live a long time in order to become lovers. God is like a good parent, refusing to do our homework for us. We must learn through trial and error. We have to do our homework ourselves, the homework of suffering, desiring, winning, and losing hundreds of times.
Loss is one of the greatest occasions of passionate feeling, and its one that is socially acceptable. When we lose a beloved friend, wife, husband, child, parent, or maybe a possession or a job, we feel ok to be passionate. But we must broaden that. We’ve got to get a passion that is also experienced when we have it, not just when we are losing it. And we have it all the time. Don’t wait for loss to feel, suffer, enjoy deeply.